The Emotionally Intelligent Woman: My Awakening to a Life-Changing Skill

 I used to think being smart was enough. I had the degrees, the drive, and the determination to succeed. But here’s the truth I discovered the hard way: intelligence alone doesn’t stop you from snapping at your partner after a long day, struggling to connect with colleagues, or feeling like you’re losing yourself when life gets overwhelming. Believe me life gets really overwhelming even when we least expect it to be.

There was a time I completely “goofed” because I didn’t understand my emotions. I remember walking into a situation at work some years ago, instead of calmly managing the situation, it escalated and it became a very ugly scene. I got defensive too quickly and i allowed my emotions override my judgement. In that moment, I thought I was being “strong” or “right,” but later I realized I had missed an opportunity to connect and show empathy.

That wasn’t the only time. Looking back, I can see how many times I let stress, frustration, or pride take the driver’s seat — and it cost me peace, relationships, and even opportunities.

The Discovery:
Everything changed the day I stumbled upon emotional intelligence. At first, it sounded like one of those buzzwords people throw around, but the more I learned, the more I realized: this is the missing piece of the puzzle.

Emotional Intelligence (or EI) is simply the ability to understand and manage your own emotions — and also recognize and respond wisely to the emotions of others. Unlike IQ (which is about book smarts), EI is about life smarts: how you handle yourself, your relationships, and your everyday challenges.

Why It Matters:

• It’s not just about staying calm at work — it’s about not taking your stress home and snapping at your kids or spouse.

• It’s not about avoiding conflict — it’s about knowing how to handle it gracefully.

• It’s not about being “soft” — it’s about being strong enough to lead with empathy, even when it’s hard.

This blog series, The Emotionally Intelligent Woman, is my way of sharing what I’ve learned — the mistakes, the breakthroughs, and the practical tools that any woman (busy, stressed, juggling it all) can use to glow up from the inside out.

In the next post, we’ll dive into the very first step: self-awareness — how to actually notice your emotions before they hijack your day. Trust me, it’s a game-changer.

If you’ve ever felt like your emotions sometimes run the show (🙋🏽‍♀️ I’ve been there), you’ll love this series. Stay with me, and let’s become the kind of women everyone respects — not just because we’re smart, but because we’re emotionally intelligent.